Legacy of Planting Flowers and Frying Fish

Mueller Memorial • March 17, 2017

It is very exciting to finally see the light at the end of our cold Minnesota winter. Spring is a season of awakening and renewal–a time of new beginnings–though sometimes, it also reminds us of the things we’ve left behind. When it comes to what we pass down to those we love, I think we too often focus on physical things like money and possessions. While heirlooms can be important and meaningful, we also leave behind something less material but more powerful: our legacy.

Maybe I’ve been thinking about legacies because Lent is is here and that reminds me of my friend, Don Schoeller. As many of you know, Lent is the season of Friday fish frys in our area. Don was a very active member of his parish Men’s Club at St. John’s/ St. Genevieve’s in Hugo and was an important part of organizing and volunteering for their fish frys.


Don was always urging me to join the men’s club but the timing was never quite right. So, when Don passed away in 2014, I finally realized that there is no time like the present and joined the club. I am there because of Don–that’s legacy. His beloved fish frys are now named for him which is a fitting tribute that shows how much Don gave of himself to his parish and how much they loved him.


I found a great article that discusses the many ways we can create a legacy that will last for years, if not for generations, after we are gone. It’s called “5 Ways to Leave a Great Legacy,” by Joan Moran, and you can find it on the Huffington Post website. Ms. Moran advocates for the importance and value of legacy-making and suggests these ways for building one:

1. Support people and causes that are important to you.
2. Reflect and decide on what is most important in your life.
3. Share your blessings with others.
4. Be a mentor to others.
5.Pursue your passions because they are infectious.

When I think about Don and his fish frys, it is clear he hit upon all five of the above points. Don cared deeply about his parish, and he saw the fish frys as a way to share his blessings with those in his community. The members of the men’s club always talk about what a leader

Don was, and how eager he was to share knowledge and experiences with them. He was never less than extremely passionate about his club, as I know from all the times he told me what a great group of people it was.


I also try to meet these criteria when I think about what I am going to leave behind. Striving to be a mentor to my staff is important to me. I have a depth of professional experience that I hope my employees can borrow from and make their own. I am incredibly dedicated to the service we provide here, and I definitely hope that Mueller Memorial will keep doing a great job for decades to come.


With spring on the horizon, take time to reflect on what you do in everyday life to create your legacy. Right now-all the time-you’re planting the seeds of your future through the people you surround yourself with, the way you speak, and the actions you take. So when everyday decisions or opportunities present themselves take a moment to ask your self, “If I do this, am I plating flowers or weeds?” Don’s legacy isn’t a product of happenstance, it’s the result of a lifetime spent planting flowers–and frying fish.


– Scott Mueller


Local Fish Frys


Don Schoeller Memorial Fish Fry
Fridays March 3, 10, 17, 24, 31 &  April 7 ,  5-8pm
St. Johns’ Church in Hugo
14383 Forest Blvd. N. (Hwy 61 & Frenchman Rd.)
$11 Adults, $9 Senior (60+), $7 Junior (6-12), Free for Kids (5 & under)
Enjoy perfectly fried Icelandic cod, baby red potatoes, french fries, coleslaw, macaroni ‘n cheese, pickles, rolls, cookies, milk, coffee, water, & pop. For more information call the church at 
651-429-7937


St. Pascal’s All You Can Eat Fish Fry
Fridays March 3, 10, 17, 24, 31 &  April 7 ,  4:30-7pm
St. Pascal Baylon Catholic Church in St. Paul
1757 Conway St. (in Briochi Hall)
$11 Adults (12 & up), $4 Children (6-11), Free for Kids (5 & under)
Classic fish fry menu includes fried and baked cod, macaroni ‘n cheese, potatoes, mixed steamed vegetables, coleslaw, dinner roll and dessert. Coffee and water included with your meal. Milk, bottled water, and pop $1 each. Stations of the Cross at  7pm .




By Scott Mueller May 26, 2026
Cremation Services Near You: Compassionate Choices for Your Family's Needs By Scott Mueller , Mueller Memorial Funeral & Cremation Choosing cremation services is a significant decision that can deeply impact families during a challenging time. Understanding the various options available locally can help families make informed choices that align with their values and needs. This article will explore the types of cremation services, key considerations for selecting a provider, and how to navigate the costs associated with these services. Additionally, we will discuss the importance of preplanning and the legal requirements in Minnesota, ensuring families are well-prepared for the process ahead. By the end of this guide, you will have a comprehensive understanding of cremation services available near you, including insights into personalized care and support options. Types of Services Offered: Cremation services encompass a variety of options designed to meet the diverse needs of families. Understanding these options is crucial for making an informed decision that honors the memory of a loved one. The primary types of cremation services include: Direct Cremation : This is a straightforward process where the body is cremated shortly after death, without a formal viewing or service beforehand. It is often the most cost-effective option. Witnessed Cremation : This service allows family members to be present during the cremation process, providing a sense of closure and participation in the farewell. Memorial Services : These services can be held before or after the cremation and often include a gathering of family and friends to celebrate the life of the deceased. Understanding these options can help families choose the service that best fits their needs and preferences. Key Considerations for Selecting a Provider: When selecting a cremation service provider, several key factors should be considered to ensure that the chosen provider aligns with your family's values and needs. Important considerations include: Reputation of the Provider : Researching the provider's reputation through reviews and testimonials can provide insight into the quality of service offered. Transparency in Pricing : It's essential to understand the pricing structure and ensure there are no hidden fees. A reputable provider will offer clear and transparent pricing. Local Ownership Benefits : Choosing a locally owned provider can often lead to more personalized service and a better understanding of community needs. For families in the St. Paul and White Bear Lake areas, contacting Mueller Memorial Funeral and Cremation Services can provide compassionate support and guidance through the cremation process. Accommodating Diverse Family Needs: Cremation services can be tailored to accommodate the unique needs of each family. Personalization is key in ensuring that the service reflects the values and wishes of the deceased and their loved ones. Factors to consider include: Personalization of Services : Many providers offer customizable options, allowing families to create a service that honors their loved one’s life and legacy. Flexibility in Service Options : Families can choose from various service formats, including traditional memorials or more contemporary celebrations of life. Grief Support Availability : Access to grief support services can be invaluable for families navigating their loss, ensuring they have the resources needed during this difficult time. What Are the Different Types of Cremation Services Available Locally? Understanding the specific types of cremation services available in your area can help families make informed decisions. Here are the primary options: Direct Cremation : This option is often the most affordable and straightforward, allowing families to focus on their grief without the added stress of planning a service. Traditional Cremation : This service includes a viewing or visitation before the cremation, providing an opportunity for family and friends to say their goodbyes. Memorial Services : These can be held at a later date and may include personalized elements such as music, readings, and shared memories. How Does Direct Cremation Provide Affordable and Simple Options? Direct cremation offers a cost-effective solution for families looking for simplicity. The process typically involves minimal arrangements, allowing for a straightforward transition. Families can save on costs associated with traditional funerals, such as caskets and extensive services. This option is particularly beneficial for those who prioritize affordability and wish to focus on memorializing their loved one in a way that feels right for them. What Are Traditional and Memorial Cremation Services? Traditional and memorial cremation services provide families with more structured options. Traditional cremation includes a viewing or service prior to the cremation, allowing for a formal farewell. Memorial services, on the other hand, can take place after the cremation and can be tailored to reflect the deceased's personality and preferences. Both options offer families the chance to gather and celebrate the life of their loved one in a meaningful way. How Can You Understand and Compare Cremation Service Costs? Navigating the costs associated with cremation services can be challenging. Understanding the factors that influence pricing is essential for making informed decisions. Key elements to consider include: Service Type : Different types of cremation services come with varying costs, with direct cremation typically being the most affordable. Provider Reputation : Established providers may charge more due to their reputation and the quality of service offered. Local Market Conditions : Prices can vary based on the local market, so it's important to compare options within your area. What Factors Influence Pricing for Local Cremation Providers? Several factors can influence the pricing of cremation services, including: Service Type : The choice between direct cremation and traditional services can significantly impact costs. Provider Reputation : Well-reviewed providers may charge higher fees due to their established trust and quality of service. Local Market Conditions : Prices may vary based on regional demand and competition among providers. Are There Transparent Payment Plans and Prepaid Cremation Options? Many cremation service providers offer transparent payment plans and prepaid options to help families manage costs. Prepaid cremation plans allow individuals to secure their arrangements in advance, often at today's prices, which can alleviate financial burdens for loved ones later. It's essential to inquire about the details of these plans, including any potential fees or conditions. What Should You Know About Cremation Planning and Legal Requirements in Minnesota? Understanding the legal requirements surrounding cremation in Minnesota is crucial for families. Key aspects include: Legal Next of Kin : The law typically requires that the next of kin authorize the cremation process. Necessary Legal Documents : Families may need to provide specific documentation, such as a death certificate, to proceed with cremation. State Regulations : Familiarizing yourself with state regulations can help ensure compliance and a smoother process. It's important to recognize that while a deceased person's wishes may be expressed in a will, the legal authority to decide on burial or cremation typically rests with the next of kin, as wills are often read after such decisions have been made. Who Decides on Burial or Cremation? Legal Aspects Every human being will eventually die. With death all rights to autonomy and self-determination ends. Not even the wish a living person expressed in a will concerning the disposal of his body has any legal effect. The decision whether a burial or a cremation should take place after death is left to those who stay behind.2Family members might feel a moral obligation to fulfil the deceased's wishes as pronounced in a will, but this can only happen if the contents of a will are known to the family members as a will is usually only read after the burial or cremation takes place. A difficulty for funeral undertakers is that as they have no legal guidance of whose wishes should be honoured or who should Burial or cremation-who decides?, M Slabbert, 2016 How Does Preplanning Ease the Cremation Process for Families? Preplanning cremation services can significantly ease the burden on families during a time of grief. By making arrangements in advance, individuals can: Clarify Wishes : Preplanning allows individuals to express their preferences regarding cremation and memorial services. Provide Peace of Mind : Knowing that arrangements are in place can provide comfort to both the individual and their loved ones. Financial Considerations : Preplanning can also help manage costs, as families can lock in prices and avoid inflation. What Local Laws and Regulations Affect Cremation Services? Local laws and regulations can impact the cremation process. Families should be aware of: Hierarchy of Next of Kin : Understanding who has the legal authority to make decisions regarding cremation is essential. Required Documentation : Familiarity with the necessary paperwork can help streamline the process. Prearranged Funeral Laws : Some states have specific laws governing prearranged funeral services, which can affect how families plan. How Can You Choose Meaningful Memorialization and Urn Options? Selecting the right urn and memorialization options is an important aspect of the cremation process. Families should consider: Types of Urns : There are various urn options available, including biodegradable urns, traditional urns, and keepsake urns for sharing ashes among family members. Personalization Options : Many urns can be customized with engravings or designs that reflect the personality of the deceased. Cultural Considerations : Some families may wish to incorporate cultural or religious elements into their memorialization choices. What Are Popular Cremation Urns and Keepsake Choices? When selecting urns, families have a variety of options to choose from, including: Traditional Urns : Often made from materials like metal or ceramic, these urns provide a classic option for memorialization. Biodegradable Urns : Designed to break down naturally, these urns are ideal for families seeking eco-friendly options. Keepsake Urns : Smaller urns that allow families to share a portion of ashes among loved ones, providing a personal connection. How Do Eco-Friendly Cremation Alternatives Support Sustainable Memorials? Eco-friendly cremation options are becoming increasingly popular as families seek sustainable ways to honor their loved ones. Options include: Water Cremation : Also known as alkaline hydrolysis, this method uses water and potassium hydroxide to reduce the body to its basic elements, offering a more environmentally friendly alternative to traditional cremation. Green Burial Options : These practices focus on natural decomposition and minimal environmental impact, often using biodegradable materials for burial. Environmental Impact : Choosing eco-friendly options can significantly reduce the carbon footprint associated with traditional cremation and burial practices.
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